De Therapeut (new edition)

"To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong. "

Lots of Facebook friends, status updates equals narcissism

We all know folks like this.

“People who have a heightened need to feel good about themselves will often turn to Facebook as a way to do so,” asserts a study by Chris Carpenter of Western Illinois University. “Facebook gives those with narcissistic tendencies the opportunity to exploit the site to get the feedback they need and become the center of attention.”

I believe the same can be said for folks who tweet nonstop. It’s an alternate universe that gives the user instant gratification, a “cyber high,” especially when one’s tweet is retweeted.

"To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong." (J. Pearce).             

Dat het internet veel toelaat is duidelijk, maar een volledige cursus in NLP of hypnotherapie volgen via het net in ongeveer 8 weken tot één jaar afhankelijk van uw eigen inzet om te studeren en dat voor minder dan 50€ (47 us$) is werkelijk de moeite waard want een gewoon boek ivm NLP of hypnotherpie kost al makkelijk rond de 20€, laat staan één met video en persoonlijke begeleiding en een examen met diploma. 

Kijk de video en beoordeel zelf of druk op de link : 

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Het is misschien een beetje gedateerd maar het succes van zakenman en miljardair Art Williams is duidelijk te wijten aan het feit dat hij weet waar het schoentje wringt in deze tijd en zoals u ziet in de jaren tachtig.  Williams werd miljardair met verzekeringen en zette het hele idee van een "zaak" op de helling, door zijn psychologie van de mensen die voor hem werken en zijn klanten, voor Williams zijn de zaken belangrijk, maar de mensen meer, mensen inspireren om meer te doen is zijn basis tot succes. Hij veegt ook de vloer aan met de MBA'ers, die hij hun diploma niet eens het papier waarop het staat geschreven waard acht.  

De video's zijn opgenomen tijdens een toespraak van de Amerikaanse vereniging voor religieuze tv-stations. Aan de toon van Williams krijg je het idee dat je een begeesterde dominee bezig hoort, of een speach van Martin Luther King Jr. Een feit is dat zijn toespraak een antwoord heeft dat verder gaat dan business, het heeft betrekking met het leven en gaat regelrecht in tegen de huidige betuttelings maatschappij waarin we leven. Probleem met veel mensen is dat ze denken alles te kunnen, maar nooit bereid zijn daar bewijzen van te leveren. Mensen trekken zich terug achter hun pc om spelletjes te spelen in een imaginaire wereld, omdat ze de echte niet aankunnen, mensen hebben honderden vrienden op facebook, maar geen één in het reële leven ... mensen beweren dat X of Y in de weg staat van hun succes ... dé kapitale fout is dat, want slechts zijzelf staan in hun eigen weg naar succes. 

Subliminale boodschappen hebben een tijdje in het nieuws gestaan en dan met allerlei fantastische verhalen.  In de jaren 80 stonden ze vooral in het reclamewereldje in de belangstelling om mensen onbewust iets te laten kopen. In de meeste landen is het verboden ze te gebruiken als reclamehulpmiddel.  Maar in de self-help wereld hebben ze een eigen bestaan gaan leiden. Subliminale boodschappen worden in de pdf die ik hieronder link (engels) duidelijk en vrij correct beschreven. Er zijn in psychologische labs voldoende experimenten mee gedaan om een duidelijk beeld te hebben over hun effect. Subliminale boodschappen kunnen auditief of visueel zijn (of olfactorisch (=mbt de geur) evtl ...).  Hier gaat het om audiobooschappen via mp3's.  Je kan ze min of meer zelf maken met behulp van het (gratis) programma Audacity (link: http://audacity.sourceforge.net/)

Ik ga hier niet uit de doeken doen hoe het juist moet, wie dat wenst te weten zend me uw mailadres en ik stuur u de gegevens. Nu is het wel zo dat de handgemaakte subliminals nooit zo mooi zijn als de professionele varianten. Ik bedoel dan dat je altijd iets hoort op de handgemaakte maar niets bij de proversies.  Wie gratis 3 subliminals ontvangt + de e-book rondom subliminale boodschappen kan hier klikken en vult uw mailadres in + voornaam. : http://www.subliminalmp3s.com/subliminal-find-harmony?utm...  

(Voor alle duidelijkheid heb ik géén enkele band met deze firma). 

e-book link: http://www.subliminalmp3s.com/_data/pdf/The_Truth_About_S...

Hieronder vindt U een vb van een subliminal audiobestand van +-5 min'en.  In deze audio zitten deze boodschappen subliminaal verborgen :

• I am positive
• I keep a positive attitude at all times
• I remain positive in all situations
• I always think positively
• I see the bright side of any situation
• I focus on the good things in my life
• I am grateful for all the good things in my life
• I am always optimistic
• I have a bright, positive future ahead of me
• My positive mental attitude is consistent at all times
• PS U kan de mp3 opslaan door op de rechtermuisknop te drukken en "link opslaan als ... " te klikken (mp3)

In deze tweede video van Tony Robbins gaat het vooral over het verschil tussen 'shoulds en musts' ... Robbins gaat in zijn bekende motivatie-stijl duidelijke denkfouten onderstrepen die menigeen maakt in het dagelijkse leven.

Deze video is van Tony Robbins een self-help Goeroe uit de VS.   Wie motivatie wenst voor bepaalde projecten of voor een levensverandering kan best eens even kijken, de video duurt 22 minuten en Robbins gaat voor de volle snelheid... Robbins schreef diverse best-sellers in de self-help genre en vooral voor het motiveren van mensen.  Hij was ondermeer de mental coach van president Bill Clinton en diverse andere politieke en economische leiders.  Hij wordt vaak controversieel afgeschilderd, maar hij is een van de weinige oprechte figuren uit de wereld van de self-help, daarover later meer.

"My heart starts to race, I can't breathe, I get all sweaty, and I feel very scared - like I am about to die."
 
This is how one of my patients recently described her panic attacks. Her diagnosis is panic disorder. The cause of this condition is still not understood, but we have long known that the vulnerability to panic disorder is strongly genetic. Now, a recent study from the laboratory of John Wemmie at the University of Iowa may have revealed an important new clue to the underlying cause of recurring panic attacks: It may, in effect, be a problem of pH -- of acidity at key junctures in the brain.
 
The amygdala, an almond-shaped structure deep in the brain, has a critical role in the circuits that control the experience of fear, both instinctive fear (like being afraid of snakes or large carnivores) and fear that is learned from life experiences. The Iowa study shows that a very basic metabolic factor, pH -- acidity -- also has an essential role in fear.
 
In general, the pH of our brain is carefully regulated. A large increase or decrease in brain acidity can seriously disrupt brain functioning. This new study indicates that pH can sometimes rise and fall in synapses, the points of communication between individual neurons in the brain. Some synapses include specialized proteins that "sense" acidity.  These proteins (called "'acid-sensing ion channels", or ASICs) stimulate neurons when increased acid is detected.
 
The Iowa study shows that genetically modified mice lacking these acid-sensing proteins have a greatly reduced capacity to show either instinctive or learned fear.  When the researchers restored the ASIC gene only in the amygdala of these genetically modified mice, they observed a normalization of fear behaviors. So their studies suggest that the ability to detect changes in synaptic pH in the amygdala is essential for normal fear behavior.
 
The Iowa paper also examined another element in the panic equation: Carbon dioxide. Carbon dioxide acts like an acid in the body and the brain. Several of the experiments described in the Iowa paper showed that inhaling elevated concentrations of carbon dioxide triggered strong fear reactions in normal mice, and that some of these fear reactions required the presence of the acid-sensing protein in the amygdala.

These experiments are especially relevant to understanding panic disorder. One of the most consistent findings in patients with panic disorder is that they are unusually sensitive to carbon dioxide inhalation and other laboratory procedures that increase brain acidity. Most patients with panic disorder will experience a panic attack when they inhale air containing 35% carbon dioxide, while most healthy volunteers will not. 
 
Interestingly, the close relatives of panic patients will also panic during carbon dioxide inhalation, even if they have never suffered from an anxiety disorder.  A hypersensitivity to acid in the brain appears to be part of the inherited vulnerability to panic attacks. The recent studies in mice lacking the ASIC protein add further credence to this understanding of why some people are more prone to having panic attacks.

The Iowa findings might help explain the significance of another curious observation: patients with panic disorder tend to generate excess lactic acid in their brains. Scientists have long hypothesized that an abnormality affecting basic cellular metabolism or pH lay at the heart of the genetic vulnerability to panic disorder.  One of the products of glucose metabolism is lactic acid, or lactate. Lactate is constantly being produced and consumed during brain activity, but if it accumulates in the brain, it will make the brain more acidic.  Recent studies have shown that patients with panic disorder consistently build up excess lactate in their brains during ordinary mental activities. The results of the Iowa studies suggest that one of the triggers for “spontaneous” panic attacks in patients with panic disorder might be lactic acid accumulating in acid-sensitive fear circuits.    
 
Although there are several effective treatments available for people with panic disorder, current treatments do not work for all patients. It is unlikely that any of the current treatments specifically act on the underlying genetic vulnerability in panic disorder patients. The new studies show that brain pH changes are a crucial part of the mechanism of many fear behaviors. At present, no available medications affect the responses of acid-sensing ion channels in the brain. It may be possible to develop medications that inhibit these ASICs or otherwise modify the metabolic or neurochemical pathways involved in the regulation of fear and anxiety by brain acidity.

For example, one of the many beneficial effects of aerobic exercise training (like running or cycling) is that metabolically active tissues (including the brain) become more efficient at consuming -- removing -- lactic acid. There is growing evidence that exercise training has powerful anti-anxiety and anti-panic effects. This invites the speculation that exercise training may reduce anxiety in part by improving the brain's ability to prevent excess acid accumulation in acid-sensitive brain regions involved in fear. If experiments support this idea, then specific exercise training regimens could be designed to take maximum advantage of this anti-anxiety mechanism.

Hier is een vervolg op de vorige posting ivm BDE'en. Persoonlijk hou ik me er al van in 1985 mee bezig, maar de meest opvallende zaken kwam ik tegen bij de diensten voor paliatieve zorgen of hospices. Je voelt direkt dat mensen zaken achter houden als ze weten wie je bent & in de wetenschappelijke wereld zijn er massa's sceptici.  Ik vergelijk ze vaak met fundamentalistische gelovigen.  Raak niet aan mijn overtuiging of ik doe u iets.  BDE-onderzoekers worden vaak sceptisch bekeken en behandelt.  Vaak ook tegengewerkt, zeker op universitair niveau. Subsidies voor dergelijk onderzoek zijn zeker niet-bestaande.  Vaak moeten de onderzoekers alles zelf financieren of via bepaalde stichtingen en schenkingen. Ik moet zeggen dat ik in het begin ook sceptisch was en dan vnml naar Elizabeth Kubler-Ross haar verhaal (ik heb enige corespondentie gehad met haar, tot haar beroerte en overlijden).  Toen ik het werk van Raymond Moody las en wist dat hij bevriend was met Elizabeth ben ik verder gaan zoeken, is het iets op de achtergrond geraakt en toen mijn vriend in de VS, Alex daar verder op wou gaan ging ik me er verder in verdiepen op het meest recentste onderzoek.  Ik moet zeggen dat géén enkele scepticus een wetenschappelijk verklaarbaar alternatief heeft gevonden voor de BDE'en ... (eb)

The year was 1998, and I was now in Las Vegas practicing the medical specialty of radiation oncology. The nineties was the decade in which the Internet exploded. Everyone was rapidly becoming smitten with this big brain in the sky, and I was no different.

Despite the steep learning curve of building websites with primitive software and slow connections, I had decided in 1997 to build the Radiation Oncology Online Journal (ROOJ.com) as a way of sharing credible information about this medical specialty with the world. It took a tremendous amount of time and effort outside of my clinical practice to assemble this nonprofit website, which I maintain as a way of providing solid information to the public about cancer treatment.

By the time I completed the ROOJ site I was an expert in website computer code. Then the idea hit me: build a website that will collect near-death experience case studies. By doing this I could amass a large number of NDE stories from around the world. Working with a large number of NDEs is important because medical studies involving a large study group produce more reliable results than do those studying a small group of people.

I built on the curiosity and work of those who had gone before me. Over the ten years since I heard Sheila recount her personal story, I had stayed in close contact with research in the field of near-death studies. Hundreds of scholarly articles had been written on near-death experience, including publications in many of the world’s most prestigious medical and scientific journals. I read the works of many major NDE researchers, including those of Dr. Moody; Melvin Morse, MD; Bruce Greyson, MD; Michael Sabom, MD; and Ken Ring, PhD. I also found myself fascinated with some of the individual stories, like that of Betty Eadie (Embraced by the Light). All of these books relied heavily on case studies. These stories of individual NDErs fed the sense of mystery I associated with this subject.

Now I was even more interested in searching for the truth than I had been ten years earlier. The implications of these experiences were so profound that I wanted to research the subject to determine if they were truly real.

The Internet was an ideal way to carry out this research. Through a website, I could reach people around the world who were willing to share their near-death experience with others. They weren’t being paid to write about their experience and had no intention of appearing on television. They would simply tell their stories directly in their own words. I would offer a series of questions aimed at helping NDErs fully express and deeply explore their incredible experience. There would be no interviewer present to possibly guide the answers or encourage embellishment, and no time constraints. Reading their shared stories would be like reading the most intimate of diary pages. By collecting NDEs via the Internet, I could examine the content of a large number of experiences, reliably determining similarities and differences, and find out once and for all if NDEs are real or imagined.

In the past a considerable amount of research had been accomplished but often with only a few NDEs. This wasn’t the fault of the researchers. Case studies of NDEs are not easy to find. Although some research indicates that as much as 5 percent of the U.S. population has had a near-death experience, many people keep them secret or find no reason to entrust their most intimate spiritual experience with their doctor or researchers.

An unfortunate reason NDErs might not share their stories is the attitude of many in medicine toward these experiences. I have heard many heartbreaking stories from NDErs who shared highly accurate observations of their own resuscitations, only to have physicians dismiss their experiences as insignificant. Even though there is no reason NDErs should have any conscious awareness of their resuscitation, their accounts were given short shrift by physicians who should have marveled at their patients’ experiences rather than ridiculed them.

I spent many years serving on the board of directors of the International Association for Near-Death Studies (IANDS). During our meetings I heard far too many stories of the problems NDErs encountered when they tried to tell their near-death experiences to the medical staff. One of the classic stories was a patient who told his doctor about his NDE in front of several nurses. When the patient finished telling his story, the doctor looked up from his clipboard and said, “Don’t think too much about it. It was just fantasy.”

When the doctor left the room, the nurses closed in around the crushed patient and said, “It’s not fantasy. We hear about these events all the time from patients. Doctors like him live in fantasy. They never hear these because they don’t listen to their patients.”

This was one way in which taking case studies over the Internet was superior to interviewing people directly. People who have these intimate experiences are sometimes reluctant to be interviewed in person and in a formal way about their NDE. They may feel that the interviewer isn’t sincerely interested in their experience, or they may feel awkward about sharing such an unworldly experience with others.

Responding to an Internet survey, by contrast, offers the NDEr a chance to share these remarkable events as if they are talking to themselves. Rather than being forced to overcome any discomfort they might have with an interviewer, they are comfortably recounting their own story privately, by themselves. They also can take as much time as they want. Many NDErs shared their appreciation with me after they took the survey. They found the survey helped them to accurately and comprehensively convey their experience. This is why I felt (and still do) that an Internet survey is more effective in many ways than a face-to-face interview.

Of course, I had concerns as I put together the NDE website survey. For example, how could I tell for certain if the stories being told were valid? I pondered this question a lot and decided to rely on the tried-and-true scientific method of redundancy. Redundancy in interviewing means asking the same question (or questions that revolve around the same concept) several times in slightly different ways. For instance, in the demographic portion of the questionnaire, there is a box to check if the person had an out-of-body experience. One would expect that if this box was checked, then the answer to the question “Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?” should be “Yes.” If we find inconsistencies in a person’s answers, we can check the narrative to see what the NDEr really experienced. Later, after large numbers of NDEs were shared, I was impressed at how consistent the responses were to the redundant questions.

The NDERF Internet survey reaches NDErs who have never shared their near-death experience with another person and would be unlikely to be reached by any other methodology used to study NDEs. The NDERF survey asks, “Have you shared this experience with others?” To this question, 8.5 percent of NDErs answered “No.”

Importantly, many studies have directly compared the reliability of Internet surveys with the more traditional pencil-and-paper surveys by studying groups of people who took surveys with both methods. The consensus of these studies is that an Internet survey is as reliable as the pencil-and-paper survey method. This further validates the reli­ability of the NDERF survey.

I already knew I needed to listen carefully to the near-death experiencers, so it made sense to ask the NDErs themselves how accurate they thought the NDERF survey was. Near the end of the current website survey, I ask an important question: “Did the questions asked and information you provided so far accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?” Of 613 NDErs responding, the answers were 84.5 percent “Yes,” 8.8 percent “Uncertain,” and only 6.7 percent “No.” This is some of the strongest possible validation of the reliability of the NDERF Internet survey, from the NDErs themselves.

Finally, my background as a physician helps me determine if a life-threatening event actually happened. I use the Karnofsky scale, which is a medical scale widely used to measure closeness to death. Karnofsky scores range from 100 (no physical compromise) to 10 (moribund) to 0 (clinically dead). I can also determine if the medical events described in the NDEs are medically plausible.

In the early days of the website, I was concerned there might be frauds or pranksters claiming to have had a near-death experience. I am glad to say this is very rare. For one thing, there is no incentive — financial or otherwise — to spend a substantial amount of time filling out the lengthy and complex survey form in order to claim a false NDE. Eventually, those trying to submit a falsified NDE discover how difficult it is to respond to a detailed survey if they have never had such an experience. In over ten years, we have uncovered fewer than ten clearly fraudulent accounts submitted on the NDERF survey form and have removed them promptly from the website and database.

I was also concerned that there might be copycat accounts, in which all or part of an NDE would be copied or plagiarized from another source. This has happened, but again very rarely. When it does, readers of the website report the copycat account, and we remove it from the site. The enormous number of visitors to the NDERF website helps assure that none of the posted NDEs are plagiarized.

I had other concerns too. Near-death experiences are complex and might be difficult for some to express in words. This is why many researchers in the past have considered them to be “ineffable,” or incapable of being expressed in words. It is not uncommon to hear an NDEr describe their experience as being, well, indescribable. I was concerned that many people might find it impossible to express what happened.

Are NDEs generally ineffable? I asked myself as I assembled the questionnaire for the NDERF site. Given all these concerns, was I wasting my time?

The website for the Near Death Experience Research Foundation (NDERF, www.nderf.org) was launched on the World Wide Web on August 30, 1998. I had many questions about whether the NDERF site would be successful. Was the questionnaire too long? Did NDErs really want to share their experience with the world? Would people trust a site like this?

I had not spent money on publicity for the site. Several months later, by monitoring the Web traffic, I could tell that the site had been visited by relatively few. Our search engine ranking was a pitiful 64. Had I wasted hundreds of hours to accomplish nothing? Would enough experiences ever be shared with NDERF to answer my questions about the reality of NDEs?

Humbled, I continued to work diligently on the site. By now I had told several friends about the site and shared my concerns that few people were actually visiting it, let alone filling out the questionnaire. When I said this, some of my friends would simply smile and utter one of the most popular movie lines in history: “If you build it, they will come.” This is the classic line from the film Field of Dreams, in which an Iowa farmer builds a baseball field on his farm in hopes that several long-dead baseball players will come there to play.

As you can imagine, “build it and they will come” is not the creed of evidence-based medicine. We like to start with a little more science than that. As a result, I still cringe a little whenever I hear this Hollywood aphorism. However, I continued to build the site in hopes that, yes, they would come.

And finally, come they did. By December 1998 I down­loaded the first twenty-two case studies from the website with great anticipation. I was jubilant. With all the effort I had put into the site, I was now going to have information about NDEs from the source — people who had the experiences! As a scientist and a “prove it to me” kind of man, I personally needed precisely this kind of information to be­gin to scientifically study NDEs.

Those first twenty-two case studies didn’t disappoint. As I read them it started to become obvious to me that the NDEs were real. I could see the same pattern of elements that Dr. Moody and other researchers had outlined in their work, including such elements as consciousness occurring apart from the body at the time of a life-threatening event.

Reading these early case studies was exciting beyond my wildest dreams. It became clear to me that by studying a large number of these NDEs in words that came directly from those who had experienced them, I could hope to eventually provide some answers to humankind’s most perplexing question: What happens when we die?

Below are paraphrases of two of the first twenty-two NDE case studies I was honored to receive on the NDERF website:

Experience #16: “I Felt Like a Fly on the Wall”

In 1963 this young man lost control of his car and collided with a brick wall. His injuries were severe enough to fracture his face and sinus cavities and to break his jaw. Badly hurt, he sat on wet grass near the destroyed vehicle and then drifted into unconsciousness. As you read this, note the calmness with which he describes his experience as well as the presence of a very powerful out-of-body experience that seemed to indicate to him that all would be well in his life despite this near-fatal accident. Here’s his story:

I was in a severe automobile accident several years ago. The steering wheel smashed my face. The accident happened in a rainstorm, and I ran off the road and hit a tree.

For a while after the crash I felt nothing, and then the pain started to burn in my face. I got out of the car and lay down, hoping it would make me feel better, but it didn’t. Finally I just blacked out. When I awoke, I couldn’t see anything because my face was covered, but I could tell I was in a hospital from the sounds and the fact that I was on some kind of bed.

I don’t know how long it was, but I had the distinct sensation that I was floating out of my body. I saw my parents, who were there at the bedside, and could feel their emotional pain. It was strange. I should have been in pain but wasn’t. Instead I was standing next to my parents trying to console them as they looked at their darling son, whom they had just been told was going to die. It was horrific, but there was nothing I could do about it. I stood next to my mother and tried to get her attention, but I couldn’t because she didn’t know I was there. I looked at my own body but wasn’t interested in what I was seeing. I actually felt like a fly on the wall.

Something in my mind finally clicked as I realized that they would eventually discover that I was not in pain, whether it was here on earth or not. At that point my empathetic pain went away and I focused on my experience. I remember thinking, “So this is what death is about,” as I rose further out of my body.

A light came into view and became larger and brighter as I drew closer. I knew this was it, the end of my life, and I wasn’t afraid. But as I drew near, a voice shouted at me to stop. And I mean shouted. “No, not yet!” the voice said.

When that happened I felt myself return very hard into my body. I gasped very loudly, but I knew I was going to survive after that. When they say it’s not your time, it’s not your time.

When I first read this man’s account of his near-fatal automobile accident, I was taken by the calmness with which he described the sense of peace and painlessness that came over him in the hospital. I was also intrigued by his description of the light that formed the boundary between life and death, as well as the strong voice that stopped him from crossing into the light.

This man came back from his experience with the ability to “intuit people’s feelings” (his words) as well as understand their emotional logic. Intuiting people’s feelings may be one type of psychic experience. I would encounter many more NDEs describing psychic experiences in the future.

Experience #21: “Wake Up, Diane”

Diane had an unusual problem. When she sat on the couch in the afternoon to watch her favorite soap opera, the young woman found herself falling asleep and having great difficulty waking up. The problem disturbed her so much that she mentioned it to her husband, who could offer no solution. Finally she decided to sit up on the sofa and watch the program rather than lie down. As it turned out, sitting up made the problem worse. Behind her, about five feet from the couch, was a leaking gas pipe that emitted enough natural gas into the room to nearly kill her. Ironically, she would have died had it not been for a visitation by her deceased grandmother during her NDE that brought her back. Here is a paraphrase of her story:

I sat myself down on the couch and started watching my favorite soap opera, and next thing I knew someone was yelling at me to wake up. I kept hearing this voice telling me to “wake up, Diane, you have to wake up.”

When Diane opened her eyes, she was looking at her grandmother who had died when she was only three years old. The grandmother smiled and told Diane to get up and follow her to safety. When she got up to follow, Diane realized she had left her body, which was now below her on the sofa. She felt no fear as she looked down at her body. She also felt no fear at the realization that there were two spirits elevated with her, one on either side of her spiritual body.

While out of her body she felt a sense of enormous peace and love. One of the spirits told her she could either stay in her spiritual body or return to the physical body below. It was a tough decision for Diane, but one that led to her choosing the physical body because she still had things left to do on earth. With the making of that choice, Diane took a deep and painful breath, and then another, until she awoke and realized that she had nearly been asphyxiated by the gas leak.

Needless to say, the gas leak was fixed soon after Diane’s NDE. The experience, however, had a lasting effect on her life. Here is a paraphrase of what Diane wrote:

The experience taught me that everything is known. At the time, I did not feel it was important to ask anything. God has made it so we will know everything when we die.

WORLDWIDE PARTICIPATION

These twenty-two case reports were the first in what would be an explosion of global participation on the NDERF website. In the decade since NDERF began, readers have sent hundreds of e-mails expressing gratitude for how meaningful the stories are to them. I have received e-mails from cancer patients and people with other serious illnesses who take great comfort in coming to the same conclusion as I, that life continues after bodily death.

Ultimately, NDEs in more than twenty languages have been shared with NDERF. Before I knew it, readers from more than 110 countries were devouring more than 300,000 page views per month on the NDERF website.

At first I considered the variety of languages to be a problem. The NDEs that were sent from people in other countries in languages other than English had to be translated into English, and online translation engines didn’t do it very well. I barely had time to analyze the experiences that people had entered in English, let alone find translators.

Then Jody, longtime webmaster of NDERF, came to the rescue. She is an attorney who is just as interested in spiritual matters as in those of jurisprudence. We met shortly before I moved to Tacoma, Washington, in the year 2000. When we first met, I could tell that she had a very strong spiritual side and that she was intrigued by the work I was doing in near-death experiences. She was unfamiliar with NDEs but became more and more fascinated with them as I told her about the case studies that were now streaming in. Even with her discernment as a lawyer, she was taken by the consistency of the experiences.

“This is amazing,” she said one day. “And it’s all for real.”

One of the things she had become interested in was whether NDEs were the same from culture to culture. And if so, could the commonality of the NDEs in different cul­tures create a bridge of world peace? By having access to NDEs written by people in other countries, she realized she could answer her questions firsthand. The quest for knowledge drove Jody to go on a Web search for translators. Over time she found over 250 volunteers willing to translate the multitude of languages spoken in the world. With Jody’s diligent assistance, the NDERF site is by far the largest publicly accessible collection of both English and non-English NDEs in the world.

The near-death experiences on NDERF are edited only to correct spelling and obvious grammar errors, remove information that would identify specific individuals, and take out grossly disparaging remarks about specific institutions. Other than those insignificant changes, the NDEs you read on the site are the highly charged experiences written by the NDErs themselves.

WHAT WE FOUND

By studying thousands of detailed accounts of NDErs, I found the evidence that led to this astounding conclusion: NDEs provide such powerful scientific evidence that it is reasonable to accept the existence of an afterlife.

Yes, you read that correctly. I have studied thousands of near-death experiences. I have carefully considered the evidence NDEs present regarding the existence of an afterlife. I believe without a shadow of a doubt that there is life after physical death.

My research convinces me that near-death experiences are the exit from this life and the entrance to another life. As one NDEr declared, “I saw these vivid colors of what I believe to be crystal, and the overwhelming feeling of knowing there is an afterlife and it is good [makes me have] no fear of death whatsoever!”

This book presents the remarkable results of the largest scientific NDE study ever reported using this methodology. In the NDERF study we examined the content of more than 1,300 NDEs. Previous scientific NDE studies generally examined only a few hundred case studies at most. With great care, we analyzed the twelve elements of the near-death experience. By looking deeply at the accounts of these NDErs, we have found some answers to humankind’s oldest and deepest questions about the afterlife.

In my work as a radiation oncologist, my life is built around science. It couldn’t be any other way. I deliver precision doses of radiation to kill cancerous tumors. There are few other forms of medical science that require such precision. I love what I do and have carried this love of science to other parts of my life. The data and conclusions you read here are based on the scientific principles that I adhere to.

I would be remiss if I didn’t say that my scientific conclusions have greatly affected my level of compassion. Sometimes frightened cancer patients familiar with my NDE research will ask me what will happen when they die. If they ask, I confidently present to them the evidence of the afterlife that I have accumulated through a decade of dedicated research. I believe that what I share with these cancer patients helps them to better face their life-threatening illness with increased courage and hope.

By reviewing the findings of the NDERF study, I have derived nine lines of reasoning that — to my mind — prove the existence of life after death. Below are those lines of evidence, each with its own brief commentary. In the remaining chapters of this book, I will examine each of the lines of evidence in depth so you can see why I came to the conclusion I did: It is reasonable to accept the existence of an afterlife.

EVIDENCE OF THE AFTERLIFE

1. It is medically inexplicable to have a highly organized and lucid experience while unconscious or clinically dead.

In our NDERF research, near death is defined as an individual who is physically compromised to the extent that death would be expected unless their physical condition improves. Those who are near death are generally unconscious and may be clinically dead with loss of breathing and heartbeat.

To understand how remarkable it is to have a conscious experience at a time of clinical death, it is helpful to understand that when the heart stops beating, blood immediately stops flowing to the brain. Approximately ten to twenty seconds after blood stops flowing to the brain, brain activity necessary for consciousness stops. Brain activity can be measured by an electroencephalogram (EEG), which measures brain electrical activity. When brain activity stops, the EEG readings go flat, indicating no measurable brain electrical activity.

Medically, I can’t conceive of any meaningful experience that could occur near death. Aren’t people near death generally unconscious? Doesn’t the very term unconscious mean that there is no possibility of an organized conscious experience? Yet despite what should be a blank slate for NDErs, they describe highly lucid, organized, and real experiences. In fact, NDErs say they are usually experiencing a more heightened state of awareness than in everyday earthly life. This is medically inexplicable given that NDEs generally occur during unconsciousness.

2. NDErs may see and hear in the out-of-body (OBE) state, and what they perceive is nearly always real.

An out-of-body experience (OBE) is the first element of the experience for many NDErs. During the OBE, many NDErs describe events that they shouldn’t be able to see, mainly because they are unconscious or because the events are taking place somewhere else, far away from their body. Events often include seeing their own unconscious body as well as frantic resuscitation efforts to revive them. These observations have been verified as realistic in hundreds of reports.

3. NDEs occur during general anesthesia when no form of consciousness should be taking place.

While under general anesthesia, it should be impossible to have a lucid experience, let alone one of greater consciousness than everyday life. The NDERF survey has yielded dozens of NDEs that took place under general anesthesia. Here is one such incident that happened to Debora. At the age of thirteen she went into the hospital for minor surgery, and the anesthetic caused her heart to stop. As her doctor struggled to keep her alive, Debora suddenly found herself out of her body:

My heart stopped from anesthesia during surgery. . . . I floated up to the ceiling and could see my body lying on the table. The doctors were alarmed and saying that they were losing me. I was not scared; I was with a couple of very kind people that I believed at the time were angels. They told me not to worry; they would take care of me. I heard a whooshing sound and was being propelled up through a dark tunnel toward a light. . . . A woman held out her hand to me; she was lovely, and I felt that she loved me and knew who I was. I felt safe in her company. I didn’t know who she was. . . . One day a few years after the surgery my mother showed me a picture of my paternal grandmother, who had died giving birth to my father. It was the lovely woman who held my hand at the other side of the tunnel. I had never seen a picture of her before.

4. NDEs take place among those who are blind, and these NDEs often include visual experiences.

Individuals totally blind from birth are completely unable to perceive the visual world that the rest of us do in everyday life. To those born blind, the ability to see is an abstract concept. They understand the world only from their senses of hearing, touch, taste, and smell. Their dreams do not include vision, although they may include other senses such as sound and touch. Vision cannot be adequately explained to a person blind from birth by drawing analogies to the four remaining senses they possess. Yet when a blind person has an NDE, the experience usually includes vision.

5. A life review during the NDE accurately reflects real events in the NDEr’s life, even if those events have been forgotten.

A life review involves a review of prior events in the NDEr’s life. Fragments of the person’s earthly life may be seen, or the review may be fully panoramic with a comprehensive review of most of the prior life. Here is one such example, from a young woman from India who nearly died from a complication of anesthesia:

My entire consciousness seemed to be in my head. Then I started seeing pictures. I think they were in color. It was as if someone had started a movie of myself and of my entire life, but going backwards from the present moment. The pictures were about my family, my mother, other members, others, and it seemed that the most meaningful, loving, caring relationships were being focused upon. I could sense the real meaning of these relationships. I had a sense of love and gratitude towards the persons appearing in my flashback. This panoramic review of my life was very distinct; every little detail of the incidents, relationships, was there — the relationships in some sort of distilled essence of meaning. The review was measured in the beginning, but then the pictures came in faster and faster, and [it] seemed like the movie reel was running out. . . . It went faster and faster, and then I heard myself, along with the entire universe in my head, screaming in a crescendo, “Allah ho akbar!” (God is great).

6. Virtually all beings encountered during NDEs are deceased at the time of the NDE, and most are deceased relatives.

When NDErs encounter people that they knew from their earthly life, those people are almost always deceased at the time of the NDE. By contrast, in dreams or hallucinations the beings encountered are much more likely to be living. This is another distinguishing feature between NDEs and dreams or hallucinations, further suggesting the reality of NDEs.

Many times the NDErs encounter a being that seems familiar, but his or her identity is unknown. The NDEr may later discover the identity of this familiar but unknown being, for instance by looking at old family photographs.

7. The striking similarity of content in NDEs among very young children and that of adults strongly suggests that the content of NDEs is not due to preexisting beliefs.

Children — even those under the age of six — have virtually the same elements in their near-death experiences as adults do. This is strong evidence in itself that near-death experiences are real, not dreams or fabrications. Why? Because very young children almost certainly have never heard of near-death experiences, as adults often have. They probably don’t know anything about life reviews, tunnel experiences, out-of-body experiences, or any of the other elements of the NDE. They become aware of such things, usually for the first time, when the experience actually happens.

The fact that children have virtually the same elements of near-death experiences that adults do makes this one of the most convincing lines of evidence that NDEs are real events and not due to preexisting beliefs, cultural influences, or prior life experiences.

8. The remarkable consistency of NDEs around the world is evidence that NDEs are real events.

There is a simple analogy I like to use that illustrates this point: If families from the United States, Spain, and Mexico all go to Paris, do they see the same Eiffel Tower? The answer, of course, is yes. The only difference might be in the way the different cultures describe this landmark. The same is true of people from different cultures who have near-death experiences. Our collection of NDEs from cultures worldwide shows striking similarity in content among all of them.

9. NDErs are transformed in many ways by their experience, often for life.

The NDERF study found consistent and long-lasting changes following NDEs. Near-death experiencers have a decreased fear of death, which seems to go hand in hand with an increased belief in the afterlife. In addition, NDErs become more loving and compassionate in their interaction with other people. Our study found that near-death experiencers may seek out helping or healing professions after their brush with death. Also, many NDErs in the study had been changed so much by their experience that they were no longer the same; they had become nicer!

The NDERF study also found that 45.0 percent of those surveyed said they had “psychic, paranormal, or other special gifts” that they did not have prior to the experience. They went on to provide many such experiences in the narrative portion of their survey. One such story of supernatural gifts came from Thomas, who nearly died from a heart rhythm irregularity. What he had to say about his extraordinary gifts was short and to the point:

I felt a need to meditate. Upon doing so I was able to hear voices and see things. (Some might call [them] spirits or unearthly beings.) I have the ability to see auras; I sense other people’s pain and am able to heal with touch. For a while I had brief spurts of telekinesis.

One of the most intriguing — to me — transformations were the unexpected healings that some reported. We have encountered many such cases in the NDERF study, including ones in which people with very serious illnesses, both physical and mental, believe they were healed around the time of their NDEs.

The transformational qualities of the NDE give me reason to believe that whatever a person experiences on the other side, a little bit of it may come back, bringing change here as well.

STRONG AND BOLD PROOF

Any one of these lines of evidence on its own strongly suggests an afterlife. However, I consider the combination of these nine lines of evidence to be proof beyond a reasonable doubt of the existence of an afterlife. That is certainly a bold statement but one I am compelled to make after years of painstaking research.

An important NDERF survey question asks 613 NDErs what they think of the reality of their experience — how they viewed the reality of their experience shortly after its occurrence and also at the time they completed the survey. In response, 95.8 percent believed at the time of completing the survey that their NDE was definitely real. Not one NDEr said that the experience they had was “definitely not real.”

And then there is the spiritual content of NDEs, namely answers to such age-old questions as: Why are we here on earth? What is important about our earthly existence? Is there an afterlife? Now that I have reviewed thousands of NDE case studies, I can say that the content of NDEs has substantial consistency in these answers. I would emphasize that this consistency tells us that something real is taking place in these NDEs. This remarkable consistency of spiritual messages suggests something extremely important, not only for the person near death, but for all of us.

The true strength of the NDERF study has been the sheer number of case studies we have examined and the consistency of results. From this volume and the consistency of their content and message, I believe we have some answers to humankind’s most perplexing question: What happens when we die?

But that is my belief. The results of our groundbreaking research are presented in the

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Science has studied the near-death experience for more than 20 years. Most research has concluded NDEs are real and unexplainable, but scientists have been slow to accept consciousness beyond death. A new scientific study by Jeffrey Long, M. D. may change that. The research compiled in  his new book, Evidence of the Afterlife, represents the largest, most comprehensive study of near-death experience and according to the study’s author is, “a real game-changer”.

Dr. Long explains, “we looked at nine lines of evidence that indicate the reality of near-death experiences and their consistent message of an afterlife. With each of the van het these lines of evidence we carefully reviewed all prior scholarly research on the subject and made our contributions with our original research… from my point of view, the scientific term is compelling, but you can put it another way — the nine lines of evidence that I present is proof of the reality of near-death experiences.”

The conclusions of Dr. Long’s research are paradigm smashing for near-death experience skeptics who’ve argued that limited brain functioning may explain NDEs. “What near-death experiencers see correlates to their time of cardiac arrest and it is almost uniformly accurate in every detail. That pretty much refutes the possibility that these could be illusionary fragments, or unreal memories associated with hypoxia, chemicals, REM intrusion, anything that could cause brain dysfunction”, Dr. Long stated.

“I looked at over 280 near-death experiences that had out-of-body observations of Earthly ongoing events… If near-death experiences were just fragments of memory, unrealistic remembrances of a time approaching unconsciousness or returning from unconsciousness, there is no chance that the observations would have a high percent of completely accurate observations. They’d be dream-like or hallucinations. But 98% of them were entirely realistic… In fact, these observations of Earthly ongoing events often include observations of things that would be impossible for them to be aware of with any sensory function from their physical body. For example, they can see the tops of buildings. They can see far away. In my study over 60 of these near-death experiencers later went back and independently attempted to verify what they saw in the out-of-body state. Every single one of these over 60 near-death experiencers that reported checking or verifying their own observations found that they were absolutely correct in every detail.”, Dr. Long said.

While some near-death experience researchers have been reluctant to make the leap from NDEs to proof of the afterlife, Dr. Long is convinced by his research findings, “I’ve gone over every skeptic argument I can get my hands on. At the end of the day, I have no doubt in my mind near-death experience is for real. It’s a profound and reassuring message that we all have an afterlife. Every single one of us. And it’s wonderful. It is probably the greatest thrill of my life to be able to carry forward that important message to the world. I wouldn’t do it if I weren’t absolutely convinced that it’s correct.”

The conclusions of this research will be controversial, but Dr. Long stands ready to take on the critics, “I would be delighted to debate any near-death experience skeptic, any time, any place, on any media, as long as they’re scholarly, well informed, and as long as it can be a very high-level, intellectual debate.”

Jeffrey Long, M.D., is a physician practicing the specialty of radiation oncology (use of radiation to treat cancer) in Houma, Louisiana. Dr. Long has served on the Board of Directors of IANDS (International Association for Near-Death Studies), and is actively involved in NDE research. His book, Evidence of the Afterlife (HarperCollins), was published in 2010.

Hier een video over de EFT techniek die vaak wordt toegepast bij allerlei psychische problemen.  Of EFT enige wetenschappelijke waarde heeft laat ik in het midden net zoals de wetenschappelijke gemeenschap.  Er zijn al diverse mensen mee geholpen, maar of het een effectieve techniek is of het placebo effect, daar is men nog verre van uit.EFT betekent  'Emotional Freedom Technique'.  Een techniek die al sinds de jaren tachtig bestaat. De uitvinder is ene Gary Craig iemand uit de NLP stal, later daarover meer.  Kijk eerst eens naar de video !

Ik start vanaf heden een reeks over diverse psychologische topics waar ik aan werk op het moment, daar zit ook het één en ander alternatief thema onder, zoals bepaalde opnames die de hersenen hun toestand kunnen veranderen.  Ik ben al enkele jaren (15 precies) bezig met het thema zelfwaarde, daar ben ik steeds geïnspireerd geweest door de Amerikaanse psycholoog en auteur Nathaniël Branden. Ik ga géén topics uit de weg gaan ook de controversiële niet. Ik hoop wekelijks een posting te kunnen doen alsook rondom bepaalde 'scams' die het internet rijk is.  What Are the Signs of Low Self-Esteem

Some of the most common signs of low self esteem are given below.
People with low self esteem are preoccupied with events of the past or the future and are unable to live in the present. They usually have low self esteem due to some unfortunate event in their youth and aren't able to move on. And due to low self esteem, they hardly have conviction in their ideas and their future. Hence they are always worried and are unable to enjoy the present.
Anger is one of the biggest signs of low self esteem. People with low self esteem are always living in denial of their problem and of they betray any hint to the outside world that they are suffering from such a problem. They use anger as their defense. They do this to intimidate people who they think are trying to nose into their problems.
Another thing people with low self esteem do to hide their true feelings is that they busy themselves with work. Since they do not want people to know their true being, they avoid social gatherings altogether by busying themselves with work. They may also occupy themselves with work in order to avoid their own feelings. Usually, a person suffering from low self esteem knows about it and to avoid nagging from the conscience, he works to keep his mind occupied.
People who have a low self esteem also are constantly trying to buck up their image in society. They often try to commodify their success and brag. They brag because they want people to acknowledge their greatness. You will often see a person with low self esteem ticking off and picking on those junior to him and trying to convince them of his superiority. But inside, the person with low self esteem knows that all the anger and pride is quite fake and hollow. A sign of low self esteem in children is that they often brag about their parent's money because they hardly have any achievements of their own.
Addiction is another sign of low esteem. Since these people are unable to get a high out of their achievements, they try artificially giving themselves a high by alcoholism, drug abuse or smoking. Addictive substances also help them keep their mind off these feelings and so they seek solace in them. People with low self esteem are also addicted to sex as they think proving their competence in bed will help them get over their low self esteem.
People with low self esteem are always after things that they do not have and set unrealistic expectations. They try to build a fortress of great things to hide their problem. If they are not able to achieve the goals they set for themselves, their self esteem reduces further. They also brag a lot about their achievements to make themselves feel better.
Another sign of low self esteem is that they are never happy. Most people will feel a high when they achieve the goals they set for themselves. But people who have a low self esteem do not feel so. They stay preoccupied with the eventuality of failure rather than enjoying their achievements.

Deze morgen werd ik wakker door het journaal op radio Nostalgie, ja, ik luister naar Nostalgie, omdat de rest steeds ruis bevatten in de morgenduren (waarom weet ik niet...).  Nostalgie is dan al niet de beste bron voor nieuws, want gisteren zonden ze het nieuws uit van 24u geleden ;... 

In elk geval kwam er in het ochtendnieuws een item over internettherapie of beter psychologische hulp via het internet via chat of dergelijke... Ik was er in 2003 reeds mee bezig, maar heb het in de loop der jaren +/- opgegeven omdat het steeds toch onpersoonlijk is.  Onderzoek van bekende therapeuten zoals Milton Erikson & Carl Rogers wezen immers uit dat de persoon(lijkheid) van een therapeut van belang is en niet, ja nogmaals, NIET de therapievorm.  Ook Carl Gustav Jung stelde al dat de aanwezigheid van de therapeut van groot belang is ...  Er is een theoretisch deel hierover maar ook een praktisch deel dat verder is uitgewerkt door de grondleggers van de NLP (R.Bandler en co).  

Een feit dat men aanhaalde is dat de meeste hulpzoekenden vrouwen zijn van jonger dan 25 jaar.  Dat kan ik zeker bevestigen, want bij mij waren het 99.85% vrouwen !! Ik vond dat eerst zeer merkwaardig, maar de feiten bevestigden steeds opnieuw dat het om jonge vrouwen gaat, die lijden aan allerlei angststoornissen .... 

Het merkwaardigste is dat vaak vrouwen hulp zoeken in naam van hun man, die zelf er niet echt happig op is om hulp te zoeken voor zichzelf !! 

 Therapie via msn of mail is misschien een vorm van anonieme therapie, maar ik denk dat het eerder slechts goed is om vragen te stellen, maar niet om verder te gaan tot intensieve therapie. 

Het kan een noodoplossing zijn in bepaalde gevallen van ernstige agorafobie of paniekaanvallen, maar het dient toch maar tijdelijk te zijn.

Bij bvb cognitive gedragstherapie zie ik niet in of afstandstherapie kan helpen, daar vaak controle uitblijft en persoonlijk contact vaak meer zegt dan woorden.

Het internet blijft vaak ook een probleem qua oprechtheid van vrager en therapeut.  wie is wie en wat is wat blijven vaak prangende vragen ....

Mooi in theorie, maar praktisch is heel iets anders ...

(Foto: Carl Rogers, for believing in the healing power of empathy, unconditional positive regard, and genuineness.)

Erich Pinchas Fromm (Frankfurt am Main, 23 maart 1900 – Locarno, 18 maart 1980) was een internationaal bekende Duits-Amerikaanse psycholoog, sociaal psycholoog en filosoof.

Auteur van:

De angst voor de vrijheid, 1941, Ned. vert. 1952 en later, ISBN 90-6131-551-4
De zelfstandige mens, 1947, Ned. vert. 1955 en later, ISBN 90-6131-552-2
De gezonde samenleving, 1955
Liefhebben, een kunst, een kunde, 1956, Ned. vert. 1962 en later, ISBN 90-6131-554-9
Marx' visie op de mens, 1961
Marx, Freud en de vrijheid, 1963, Ned. vert. 1970 en later, ISBN 90-6131-558-1
Het hart van de mens, 1964, Ned. vert. ISBN 90-6131-563-8
De revolutie van de hoop, 1968, Ned. vert. ISBN 90-6131-560-3

The more people complain about their unwanted circumstances in life, the less likely they are to do anything to change them!

There is nothing as certain as silence, stillness, and solitude to introduce you to the secrets of yourself.

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Vandaag iets voor de man, erectiestoornissen... Sinds 1998 is het iets meer bespreekbaar dan daarvoor door de introductie van Viagra. Maar wat minder mannen en ook vrouwen weten is dat de erectiestoornis vaak gerelateerd kan worden aan de gezondheidstoestand van de man en in veel mindere mate aan psychische toestanden zoals men in de jaren '80 nog steeds volhield.

Erectiestoornissen kunnen vaak te maken hebben met ziekte, fitheid, medicatie en dergelijke, een aantal bloeddrukverlagers en anti-depressiva hebben aleen al een ernstig effect op de man zijn erectiekwaliteit. Ook slechte voeding, een gebrek aan rust of een overdaad aan stress hebben nadelige invloeden. Socio-psychologische factoren zoals een overlijden van een geliefde, jobverlies of scheiding kunnen ernstige erectiele stoornissen veroorzaken. Maar allerlei cardiovasculaire toestanden en neurologische problemen hebben nadelige tot desastreuze effecten op erecties. Ook zijn de stoornissen niet aan leeftijd te koppelen, mannen van begin de 20 kunnen al ernstige problemen kennen op dit vlak.

In een volgende posting geef ik enkele tips vooraleer naar Viagra te grijpen... want dat is echt het allerlaatste redmiddel + als U een onderliggend probleem ontkend dan kan het wel eens ernstige gevolgen hebben voor uw levenskwaliteit laat staan voor het leven van de patient zelf !!

“What other people think of me is none of my business.  One of the highest places you can get to is to be independent of the good opinions of other people.”

(W.Dyer)

Laat dit citaat het begin zijn van de komende postings in 2009 en laat me U een geweldig inspirerend 2009 toewensen. 

Vanaf heden kunnen opnieuw reacties gepost worden op deze site en op het filosofisch dagboek.  Deze zullen verschijnen na moderatie, om problemen te voorkomen en overbelasting zoals ooit in een ver verleden het geval was.  Ik zal ook opnieuw een maillink inbouwen om eventuele vragen te beantwoorden.  Ik ben al enige tijd van plan om meer tijd te gaan steken in mijn blogs.  Maar verwacht aub niet onmiddellijk een antwoord op mails of reacties, ik ben nogal slordig op mijn administratie omdat ik meerdere browsers en mailclients door elkaar gebruik ... ik ben vaak ook wat slordig in mijn logica ... mmm .

Dit laatste heb ik niet gezegd.  Voor allen die me een Zalig Kerst en Happy 2009 hebben gewenst en die geen persoonlijk bericht hebben gekregen, ik ben er aan bezig... 

Klik op de afbeelding .....

" To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the Palm of your Hand
and Eternity in an Hour."
(The Auguries of Innocence)(William Blake)

Goede Nacht, goede nacht, Ik heb mijn levenstaak volbracht...

(cit EM. Post) 

Carl Gustav Jung spreekt over de dood, een onderwerp die de meesten onder ons wensen te vermijden... wellicht één van de laatste taboes in de 21 ste eeuw.  Eén van mijn trouwe lezeressen maakte me erop attent dat er video's bestaanvan Jung op het internet. Ik was me er wel van bewust maar ik wens de lezers van de blog er toch eens attent op te maken dat er nog een grote schat van deze beelden bestaan.

 Overgenomen uit de vorige versie is deze samenvatting van symptomen bij paniekaanvallen, zaaks is dat niet alle symptomen moeten voorkomen, drie of vier is meestal bepalend of iemand werkelijk een paniekaanval heeft of niet... meestal treedt één of meer symptomen op bij een bepaalde situatie en wordt er de link gelegd door het brein, tussen de situatie en de symptomen.  Daaruit volgt dan dat als men opnieuw in situatie x komt er vaak spontaan die symptomen optreden. Door bevestiging en herbevestiging wordt de zaak steeds verder in het brein gelinkt én zal vaak de aanval al optreden bij andere gelijkende situaties bvb bij y of z...

Bij bepaalde personen kan de link zo sterk worden dat bij de minste angst de aanval al optreed, meestal gaat het door feed-back tussen brein en lichaam...'ik voel een beklemd gevoel----> angst---->'ik krijg een aanval'----> ik ga misschien van mijn stokje----> versterkte angst---->...enz ...
PANIEKAANVALLEN :

TERUGKOMEND OP "PANIEKAANVALLEN" ZAL IK EVEN DE KENMERKEN DOORGEVEN VAN EEN TYPISCHE PANIEKAANVAL ZOALS VASTGELEGD IN DE DSM IV, DAT IS EEN LIJST VAN DIAGNOSTISCHE CRITERIA SAMENGESTELD DOOR DE AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION. DEZE LIJST WORDT IN DE GENEESKUNDE EN GEESTELIJKE GEZONDHEIDSZORG ALS STANDAARD GEBRUIKT OM AANDOENINGEN IN TE DELEN... (ER ZIJN ANDERE LIJSTEN!!) OM ZO EEN EENDUIDIG BEELD TE KUNNEN DOORGEVEN AAN ANDERE ZORGVERLENERS. SOMMIGE PSYCHIATERS EN PSYCHOLOGEN WEIGEREN DE LIJST TE GEBRUIKEN WEGENS Té DEFINIëREND (EN STIGMATISEREND). TOCH IS HET EEN GOEDE RICHTLIJN....
PANIEKAANVAL:
EEN BEGRENSDE PERIODE VAN INTENSE ANGST OF GEVOEL VAN ONBEHAGEN WAARBIJ 4 OF MEERDERE VAN ONDERSTAANDE SYMPTOMEN OPTREDEN...
1,HARTKLOPPINGEN, BONZEND HART OF VERSNELD HARTRHYTME
2,TRANSPIREREN
3,TRILLEN OF BEVEN
4,GEVOEL VAN ADEMNOOD
5,NAAR ADEM SNAKKEN
6,PIJN OF ONAANGENAAM GEVOEL OP DE BORST
7,MISSELIJKHEID OF BUIKKLACHTEN
8,DUIZELIGHEID OF FLAUWTE
9,ANGST OM DOOD TE GAAN
10,GEVOEL LOS TE KOMEN VAN DE WEKELIJKHEID OF VAN PERSOONSVERLIES
11,ANGST OM ZELFBEHEERSING TE VERLIEZEN
12,VERDOOFDE OF TINTELENDE GEVOELENS
13,KOUDE RILLINGEN OF OPVLIEGERS
EEN HééL LIJSTJE .... (UIT: DSM IV VAN DE APA)




 

"I have Yet to see any problem, however complicated, which when looked at in the right way, did not become still more complicated."  (P. Anderson- inl. van Mathematical Modelling).

Dit doet me enigzins denken aan het verhaal dat Richard Feynman (Nobelprijs Fysica  voor zijn mathematisch model rondom de quantum chromo dynamica) die in zijn beginjaren aan de universiteit een voorbereiding maakte op het bord van de aula en achter zich een stem hoorde die eerder afwijzend was over zijn afleiding van het probleem. Daarop wou Feynman de persoon terecht wijzen, maar toen hij zich omdraaide bleek het Albert Einstein te zijn & het probleem draaide over de relativiteitstheorie... trouwens naast Einstein zaten enkele andere groten uit de theoretische natuurkunde (niels Bohr,...). Nu ja wie juist was heb ik niet verder vernomen, ik ben trouwens niet alleen een fan van Feynman maar vooral van Werner Heisenberg... kwestie van het onzekerheidsprincipe te mogen hanteren wat betreft de exactheid van dit voorval. Eén voorval kan ik wel met 99,99% zekerheid vertellen:

 mijn prof organische chemie zou voor het examen enkele voorbeelden

geven, volgens hem eenvoudig genoeg, ... het laat raden dat hij na drie kwartier er zelf niet uitkwam.... en we hebben nooit het antwoord gekregen... de gemiddelde uitslag was -13/20, niet bepaald een 'natuurlijk getal' !!!

Toen ik recent enkele nieuwe boeken doornam rond sociale fobie, verlegenheid en angsten vond ik iets dat me op het eerste moment erg bruikbaar leek. Het boek “Beyond Shyness” gaat namelijk in hoe bijvoorbeeld verlegenheid kan leiden tot een paniekaanval.
Daarbij geeft hij enkele stappen om een paniekaanval te doorstaan. Daarbij de meest essentiële die steeds terugkomt bij stoornissen en dat is “Acceptatie van het feit dat je een paniekaanval hebt” een ander belangrijke stap is communicatie naar de buitenwereld, maw deel aan de andere(n) mee dat je een paniekaanval hebt, dat verlicht sterk de angstgevoelens, want de meerderheid tracht koste wat kost te voorkomen dat iemand maar zou te weten komen wat ze mankeren of doorstaan. De meerderheid van de mensen is absoluut begripvol en ten slotte maken zo een 2 miljoen mensen jaarlijks een paniekaanval door. (gegevens voor N. Amerika)
Maar dé belangrijkste raadgever is de deze:
“ Remember: FEAR means FALSE EVIDENCE Appears REAL !!!”
Want ten slotte is een paniekaanval niet meer dan een vals gevoel, een bedrog van de geest, een verkeerde beoordeling van een lichaamssignaal. (“Mijn hart gaat té snel dus ik krijg een hartaanval, ja ik voel het, kortademigheid, het is WAAR !!”) Eigenlijk voelt men gewoon de fysiologie van de angst, een uiting van zijn sociale fobie, verlegenheid, lage zelfwaarde, .... Dat is NORMAAL, niets bijzonders, MAAR de panieklijder gaat zich concentreren op die signalen die eigenlijk niet abnormaal zijn en zijn geest gaat aan de haal ---->paniek.

In een boek over korte termijnbeleggingen op de NYSE (New York Stock Exchange) vond ik iets zéér toepasselijk voor deze site:
“ If we drag fear into the sunlight, we'll find exactly what it is : ' Fear is nothing, trying to be something'”
Hoe waar is dit !! Want angst is niet meer dan een gevoel van onbehagen, iets dat onbewust start en dan vaak het schip over neemt, het bewustzijn wordt overspoeld door dat gevoel en vaak sturen we zo het schip op de klippen.... Maar als we de angst tegen het licht houden ontdekken we vaak tot onze schaamte dat het niets inhield.